Ideal meeting places for online Dating

Posted on January 6, 2011 by admin

The Ideal First Meeting Place for Online Daters

It’s your first date in real life after some time talking and flirting online. It’s natural to feel a bit anxious about it. Ultimately, all virtual roads lead to this first face-to-face meeting (“eyeball”, if you will).

That is unless you’re a serial cyber dater, in which case you should be avoided at all costs.

Kidding aside, one of the most important things you should plan on is where your first meeting place should be. While it’s understandable that you would want to make it as romantic and as memorable as it can get, you have to bear in mind several essential things prior to your meet-up, such as security, convenience, and safety. Below are five tips on where to hold the ideal first meeting place if you’ve been dating online and want to take it to the next level.

Meet halfway. Assuming that you live in different zip codes (otherwise, you wouldn’t have been chat buddies for long), determine the best halfway point between you so it’s fair to both of you, distance-wise. Also, consider the sort of transportation available for you to get there. There should be a train or bus route, or plenty of taxi cabs to take you to the agreed-on venue so you won’t have problems going home afterwards.

Avoid noisy venues. You’re going to be doing a lot of talking, presumably. But even if you’re not (hopefully your lapses into silence are comfortable ones), meeting up in a cozy coffee shop or bookstore that allows for prolonged stays is a lot better than, say, a rock concert or a crowded club with thumping music.

Talking over coffee or tea is a long-time and honored tradition because it’s conducive for heart-to-heart conversations. Forget about bonding over loud music. For your first-time face-to-face meeting, a quiet and serene environment is the way to go.

Make sure there’s ample parking. This may seem like an odd tip, but so much time has been wasted on finding proper parking space once the date is all set. Sure, you may arrive at the place on time, but if it’s one with no parking lot or it’s dangerous to leave your car a couple of blocks away, it can prove to be a really big mood-dampener.

Research on the venue and its parking provisions ahead of time. It’s going to be embarrassing to your date if your car gets towed for illegal parking.

Or, you can choose to leave your car at home and commute to the place…provided it’s convenient and safe to take public transportation to and fro.

Choose a place with flattering lighting. First impressions last. Select a venue for your first time meet-up that is kind to your complexion, will cast dramatic shadows on your face, and provide an overall soft

kind of lighting that can be romantic. Coffee shops, fine dining restaurants, and other cozy settings can set the mood for the date, and can serve as great launch pads for if you both want to take the date to another venue later.

Pick out someplace you can both have fun. Conversations are okay, but if you want to go for a light and enjoyable sort of date, why not try unconventional places you can bond over, such as a miniature golf resort or an art opening? If you still have energy to hop to another venue, research on possible ones open the same day as your meet-up, and invite your date to go there out of the blue. If they’re up to it and are into you, they’ll appreciate your effort into injecting fun into your date and preventing it from becoming dull and predictable.

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Choosing the right person online

Posted on January 3, 2011 by admin

Choosing the Right Person

The internet can open a world of possibilities. A click of the mouse can lead you to loads of information – and if you are not prepared for it – you might find yourself overwhelmed and wading through the deluge.

It’s the same with online dating. With so many choices laid out before you, choosing the right person can be daunting. I say the experience can be like trying to decide which gelato to indulge in after a hard day at work. Will you have bacio? Or will you go for a scoop of amarena? With gelatos, you can always grab two more flavors just in case you made the wrong choice. Oh wait. On second thought, online dating is not that simple.

Sure, if you want to keep your options open and date a couple or more people, you can. Unless if you don’t want to be called as the town slut or end up going in circles.

If you want to find Ms. or Mr. Perfect – then you must be really specific and be in tuned with what you want from a life partner. If it helps, you could list them down. Don’t worry about appearing like a high school kid no one else is going to read them anyway. Unless they are really interested.

And then, if there are folks online who interest you, you can make that move and ask them out for a casual date. Taking that jump to meet with them in person is a make or break situation. Don’t worry too much about making a good impression. Pay closer attention to your date. That’s the biggest mistake everyone does online when chatting. They talk and talk about themselves, pausing to say something like: this is how it should be, right? What do you think? And then going ahead blabbing about themselves anyway without waiting for the other person on the other line to actually answer. Now, if you’ve found that your personalities don’t click or that the traits you are looking for aren’t present – then feel free to move on.

It might seem a little brutal, but that’s just the way it goes. Why should you go around wasting yours and other people’s time? It’s the fear of loneliness and the pressure of finding that someone that clouds people’s judgment, in my opinion. Don’t let good looks dazzle you from what you really want. Or if you want someone who is interested in you and you’re stories you don’t need someone who looks like Brad Pitt (of course that’s always a plus); just someone who’s willing and genuinely interested in listening.

Fortunately, for folks who find it difficult to pinpoint their wants, needs and compatibilities; there are online dating sites that use sophisticated and scientifically based systems to match your personality. And you can be as specific as you want to be on your profile. That’s actually better because you avoid wasting time.

Again, it might sound impersonal or even unromantic – but a nudge here could do wonders.

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Who uses online personals?

Posted on December 29, 2010 by admin

Who Should Go For Online Dating

So you see several dating sites online and you – may or may not wonder – who can benefit most out of these sites? Is it the cool people? The nerdy people? Should you sign up to one (or three)?
The obvious answers to that query are college kids or career folks who don’t have enough time to mingle. But when you think about it, in these times that online dating is no longer considered as taboo, everyone can log on and enjoy the thrills of these dating sites.

But there are specific individuals who could use these sites to their advantage. And no, I am not talking about stalkers and other pervs.

For example, people who are painfully shy – like me (*coughs*), can initiate the first move through a virtual wink, a poke or a short message. Often – and I think it’s safe to conclude – that everyone had experienced being bashful and not coming up to their objects of their fancy to even say “hi.”

In cyberspace, given that you are not actually communicating face to face – approaching someone who seems “unattainable” becomes relatively easy. If he/she does not respond to your message or subtle flirting – at least, no one was around to see it happen.

Another group that can benefit are individuals who think that they are way too old to get on the playing field and start all over again. Specifying your criteria and being honest about who you are and what you are looking for are the stepping stones to making these sites work for you.

I know people – widowers and / or fifty somethings – who have almost given up on romance and love all together but soon found themselves feeling like high school kids again, thanks to online dating sites. If you are uncomfortable wading through other younger people’s profiles; the good news is that there are sites which cater specifically to mature singles.

The beauty of these sites is that it saves you a lot of time and money from actually going out to meet people. It creates sort of a screening process so you don’t have to go through all the trouble and effort it normally takes to meet people and for a busy person, most especially, anything that takes precious time just won’t do. Career people and students loaded with units don’t have the luxury to spend more time out than they want to. Online dating provides them that opportunity to meet fellow singles that are also too busy (or shy) to go out.

If you break it down, online dating is really for everyone who wishes to find a partner whether for a serious relationship or just to hook up occasionally. Whatever the situation is, there’s no reason to shy away from these places online. It’s a great tool to put the life in your social life.

NOTE: If you are concerned about internet safety or you need help in making your online profile work for you, you can read our other blog entries to some helpful tips.

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Perks of Online Dating

Posted on December 22, 2010 by admin

Well, believe it or not there are still some people who sneer or laugh at the thought of online dating. Given that such form of social networking had been exploited to high heaven – it is quite understandable.

I’ve had initial reservations myself since the old fashioned romantic in me thought it cheapens the pursuit but after some time I eventually realized that there are advantages to online dating than actually going out and meeting people.

Like – well – think of online dating as a singles bar open 24/7. You don’t have to put up or get pressured to meet someone before the pub closes. Simply by logging on to one of these sites will open up a door of possibilities for you, which leads me to another advantage, especially for a cheapskate like me.

With online dating, you don’t have to spend on drinks, fancy clothing, expensive perfumes and gas. There are several free online dating services that you can explore. Other sites charge a minimum fee for extras such as how many messages you can send or how many profiles you can bookmark. It’s all up to you. In the end, just think of the money you’ll be able to save and when that moment comes you finally meet Mr. or Ms. Right, you’ll have all that spare moolah to spend on romantic dinners and such.

Also consider that with online dating, your choices will not be limited to you immediate vicinity or group of friends and their friends. With just a few ticks on the boxes, you can scour the entire planet from Albania to Zimbabwe.

But with the whole world on your plate it doesn’t mean that you’d want to shack up with every Dick, Tom, Harry and Sally. The beauty of it – and can I say – the top reason why I favour online dating nowadays than the traditional method is that you can define the person you want to meet. You have to keep it realistic, of course. Most likely you won’t wind up with a Scarlett Johannsen doppelganger on your lap.

And since you have complete control over who you meet, it also follows that you have complete control on what information to give out. Here, common sense dictates that no personal information should ever be given out. Such only follows when there is a level of connection and trust already established. You know, in this day and age, there is no such thing as being too careful.

There are tips and suggestions here on online safety and you might want to read up on those. Come to think of it, the risks you’ll encounter online are the same things when you go out on blind dates. Again, it helps to know basic precautions.

Well, if you weigh the benefits and the risks, you’ll notice that online dating fares better. It is fun,uncomplicated, and affordable and you have complete control. And even if you don’t find the perfect partner, who knows, you might wind up with a life long friend. And that isn’t so bad now, is it?

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What women want

Posted on December 18, 2010 by admin

WHAT WOMEN WANT: A Guide To Online Dating

You would think that going online and looking for hot women to date would be a piece of cake, right? And narrowing down your choices would be a cinch, since all you have to do is browse through profiles,check out their relationship status, interests, and other personal info to see if they match what you’re going for, correct?

Not really.

Sometimes, dating and social networking sites’ personal information pages don’t allow a girl to specify exactly what she wants in an online date, or what her relationship status really is. The best she can come up with would be “it’s complicated”. So in order to dig deeper into her dating psyche, consider these tips.
Don’t come off as sleazy. Unless it’s a free-for-all adult dating site where you’re allowed to post photos of your privates as the profile picture, refrain from establishing that you’re after sex. You don’t want to be pegged as the creepy sex maniac, do you?
We’re living in PC (politically correct) times, so the rule of thumb when meeting women online would be to steer clear of sex talk…unless the lady initiates it, of course. Once she does, you can flirt and respond in a manner that’s in keeping with the tone of your dialogue (whether by chat, email, or other electronic means). However, if you’re looking for something more long term than a one night stand or fling, concentrate on the lady’s personality, interests, and ideas during your conversations. She’ll appreciate
it. Even the most liberated woman would like to be drawn into stimulating conversation first. Be as truthful as you can be. While women look for certain traits in men and you can’t have all of them, chances are there’s a lady out there in the worldwide web looking for someone with YOUR qualities. In this regard, it’s important to be true to yourself. Don’t pretend to be something you aren’t. For instance,if you’re not a jock, don’t pepper the convo with athletic talk that you can’t back up with actions.

Soon enough, the lady will likely see right through your lies and feel as if she’s been had.
If you’re really into a girl who has specific interests and preferences which don’t match yours, make a  mental note to research those so you can include them in future dialogues. She’ll be flattered that you made an effort to look up things she likes. Play it cool. Women appreciate an air of mystery in their men, whether online or off. That’s not to say you should overdo the James Bond aura to the point of being exasperating. Just refrain from
bombarding the lady with incessant private messages, email, posts, comments, and other forms of electronic correspondence. Bear in mind that she has a life outside of the virtual world, too.

Over eagerness is unattractive in any form. Play it cool by limiting the contents of your email to five sentences or less, not an entire page stating your life history. Instead, devote conversations to drawing her out and making her talk more about herself. Turn her on by mentioning little tidbits about yourself when she asks for specifics, but don’t get into specific details. The mystery will keep her intrigued.

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Online Dating and going to the next level

Posted on December 17, 2010 by admin

Online Dating: Going to the Next Level

You’ve been chatting and flirting online for some time now, and you realize you really like your virtual date. Are you ready to take it to the next level and be an offline couple? Before you could do that, you must first ask yourself some important questions:

Are you both on the same page about your expectations in a real-life relationship?

Will your online date enhance your life when you become a real couple (and will you do the same for them)?

If physical distance is involved, what sacrifices are you both willing to make to get the relationship running smoothly?

…plus other issues that need to be addressed straightaway. If you met each other in a dating site, chances are you’ve already discussed what you want in a relationship. Have you defined yourself in the context of being an online couple? It could be that you’ve agreed on a more casual and open arrangement (free to “date” and “flirt” with other online entities, etc.) given that your relationship is virtual. Bear in mind that establishing a relationship in real life means a new set of rules. Maybe once you’re physically together, you’d want a more exclusive arrangement. Talk it over thoroughly.
Compromises must be made should any differences arise. You have to realize that nobody, not even the most compatible couples, are perfectly matched in every sense.

Assuming that it’s your first time to see each other face to face, check for chemistry between you and your online date. What you’ve seen of your potential lover via web cam, heard on your headset, or read in chat windows, could translate differently in real life. You could either fall deeper for the person, or be in for some disappointment. Be prepared for this. Also, don’t despair if sparks don’t come flying as soon as you lay eyes on each other. There are plenty of couples who weren’t initially attracted to each other at first sight, but managed to find charm in one another as time goes by.
You also need to be realistic. Interacting online hides a lot of things that could surface once you start dating in real life. It could be particular quirks, habits, or other traits that might gnaw at you, and which you didn’t bargain for when you became a virtual couple. The good news is, communication can help in this regard. Be open to discussing things that can improve your relationship, and you’re ensuring that you have something that’s for keeps.

Think of your online dating relationship as the threshold, and your real life one as your home. And to build it, you must have a solid foundation built by trust, respect, and strengthened with constant communication.

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Telling your online date it will not work out

Posted on December 10, 2010 by admin

Online dating is a lot easier than regular dating. You simply log in to a dating site, build your profile, browse for potential hook ups, and start interacting with people via chat or email exchange. However, it also has its unique set of pitfalls. One of them involves pushy people who want to hook up with you, even though you’re not exactly “feeling” them.
So how do you tell an online date it won’t work out between you? Consider these top five virtual dating “exit strategies”, if you will.

1. Say “no, thanks” and don’t make excuses.

It’s important to remember that you aren’t beholden to any date, much less an online one. Unlike marriage, there is no contract involved. So when you say no to someone you’ve been “seeing” online, make it short, sweet, but firm. Don’t beat around the bush and most especially, don’t make excuses for your decision to put a stop to it. You can be gracious, polite, but not apologetic. You don’t owe them a lengthy explanation of what turned you off or what made you change your mind about them. Some sample phrases to use when employing this strategy: “I’m not interested in something other than friendship”; “It’s been nice chatting with you, but I think this is as far as it goes”; “I’m just not
looking into hooking up seriously, sorry”.

2. Turn up the buddy vibe.

You can establish from the get-go that you want to be friends, and nothing more. If your online date is sensitive enough, they will pick up the “let’s just be buddies” vibe you’re giving off. But if they aren’t, work on how you converse with them. Avoid using terms of endearment such as “baby”, “honey”, “sweetie”, etc. Instead, lay it on thick with “dude”, “pal”, “bro”, and other labels that no-one will ever mistake for tender terminology.
Also, make your online repartee like one between mates, not lovers. If they try to steer the
conversation into romantic territories, veer into neutral ones that can allow you to have chummy talk. Do this often enough and they’ll likely get that you’re not into them… at least not amorously.

3. Change your relationship status in your public profiles.

It’s a sneaky tactic, but it can work. So many couples using social networking sites have gotten into fights because one of the partners doesn’t acknowledge their relationship with the other. Use this tool to your advantage so you can give your unwanted online date a strong and clear message. If your relationship status has been “single” for a while now, change it to “in a relationship”. The tricky part is when your online date thinks they’re the one you’re in a relationship with, which can make the situation more complex. You can up the ante by asking a friend to append their name to “in a relationship with” just to be more specific. Now that’s a sure-fire way to really get the message across. But if you’re uncomfortable using this strategy, you can also use shout-outs, posts, or status
messages to relay how much you enjoy being single, and how you want to stay that way for a while.

4. Stop replying to their messages.

Silence is a great exit strategy. We don’t mean give them the silent treatment, because that might just encourage your ex-online date to pursue you more. Simply stop replying to their messages and go on invisible mode if you must. Your absence for a period of time can serve as a punctuation mark to your correspondence (though hopefully it’s a period rather than an ellipse kind of punctuation mark).

5. Block them if they become persistent.

When push comes to shove, don’t feel guilty about blocking an unwanted online date. Your privacy and safety should never be compromised for the sake of virtual correspondence, romantic or otherwise. Besides, if they had any decency, they would know when you need to be alone and not insist on bothering you. Use the block or ban feature in your email, messaging system, or online account when persistent behavior borders on stalking. It was put there for that very purpose.

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Stop Chatting and Start Dating

Posted on December 5, 2010 by admin

Let’s assume you’ve been chatting on the Internet with a potential love interest for some time now.How can you tell when it’s time for an “offline” date, and how can you make the transition from virtual to real space hooking up? Here are five tips that can help you tell when and how.

1. When you get along swimmingly online

Seems like a no-brainer, right? The thing is, so many online hook-ups happen merely for the sake of hooking up. Plenty of reasons abound: boredom, being on the rebound, loneliness, simply wanting someone to talk to, etc. What you have to remember when you establish an online dating routine is that it’s a lot like regular dating: you have to at least get along with your potential love interest. If you find yourself being annoyed at the other person’s quirks, habits, manner of talking, ideals, or any other traits during the course of your virtual dating history, imagine just how that would translate into meat space. So the first rule of thumb before meeting up with a chat buddy: if you  can’t stand them online, chances are you won’t be able to stand them offline, as well.

2. When you can properly focus on the meet-up without any distractions

You have a life beyond chatting with people online: work, school, and other obligations. Make sure that when you’re finally meeting up with someone you’ve been interacting with on the Internet that you don’t have pressing matters to attend to; otherwise, you’ll be distracted and it will create an unflattering impression on your date. Focusing on your date will ensure that you can bond in real time and space in pretty much the same way that you’ve bonded online…and maybe even better. Think of your personal meet-up as the culminating activity of all those times you merely chatted and dreamed about finally seeing each other face to face. Don’t ruin it with a busy schedule, work-related text messages and calls, and other possible distractions.

3. When you’ve chosen a good venue, time, and event

You have to properly plan the “eyeball” (EB) instead of just jumping right into a “let’s go meet up at the mall near the yogurt stand in thirty minutes, I’ll be wearing a red dress” routine. Doing the latter will be a lot like setting yourself up for plenty of potential pitfalls, such as awkward silences or really bad first impressions.While being spontaneous and quirky is refreshing, it won’t do for a first-time EB between chatters looking to possibly date IRL (in real life). Plan your first face-to-face meeting. If you have shared
interest in music, why not attend a concert together? Or pick out a restaurant serving dishes you both want to try. Build your first real date around things you’ve already discussed so you’ll feel more at ease with each other, and so that you’ll have plenty more things to talk about in person.

4. When you’re absolutely sure you can trust the person

While this seems like a wet blanket sort of tip, personal safety should always top your list of priorities when it comes to meeting someone for the first time. A lot of people who hook up online insist on jumping into meeting up with their virtual lovers straightaway. They reason that putting off a face-to-face meeting only creates unrealistic scenarios that can be a big let-down when the people involved don’t meet up to their fantastic expectations. But think about it: the longer you chat with someone, the more time you can have checking out their backgrounds, seeing if what they say are consistent, and picking up clues about their real personas. Of course, this is by no means a foolproof scheme. However, the shorter the time you’ve been chatting, the bigger your chances are of getting fooled by someone you barely know.

5. When you’ve set aside unrealistic expectations

You may be feeling jittery when it’s time for your first face-to-face meeting after chatting…and we don’t blame you. There might not be the same kind of chemistry you have online, or the sort of easygoing repartee and confidence you’ve exhibited during chat might not translate well in real life. For instance, while you can just type the letters LOL to acknowledge a joke they made, hearing them for real might not elicit the same reaction. That’s not to say you should lower your expectations.  Just be realistic: don’t anticipate the Perfect Person to come sweeping you off your feet. It would also help to treat your first date as a way to test the waters. If the romantic sparks don’t come flying but you enjoy each others’ company anyway, what’s to stop you from becoming  good buddies, online and offline?

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Sharing Personal Information and Online Dating

Posted on December 1, 2010 by admin

Asking for personal information from someone you met online is never easy. Yes you’re not exactly asking to meet yet but asking for a phone number or specific address is like sharing intimate information about that person. And as intimate and personal as it is, it indicates the time when you will find out if the person really trusts you or more importantly, if she will really meet with you. It’s a huge risk because if, for example, the person likes you too and was just waiting on your move but you didn’t do it soon enough then you might be missing your chance as time passes. In this case men should be conscious of women’s hints and interaction to know if it’s time to take that risk.

There are a few ways to tell if it is safe to ask. One is to be aware of certain time frames. If you haven’t met in person yet but you have been talking for a while, say weeks or even a month, and you know that you will still keep talking after this one, say for example, every night when you log in on your computer when you get home from work then it is generally safe to do so. A woman won’t tolerate chatting too long, and on a regular basis, if she is not interested. If you agree to “meeting up” again to chat tomorrow at the same time then take that risk and there’s a big chance you will like what you will hear.

On the other hand, you also want to take this time frame cautiously. If you just met and are sure you will talk again soon, like in a few hours, then there is no need to hurry. It’s not like you just met on the subway and won’t be able to see her again. This will make her feel secure and will trust you enough that when you finally ask for it she won’t have second thoughts.

Another way is to read between the lines, Women, not all, are often shy and won’t say things straight to the point. Sometimes they are also scared of getting hurt so they do this. In this case you need to learn how to read between her messages. This doesn’t mean that when she says no that she actually means yes. It’s like reading body language except you don’t see her. If for example on your next few chats she refuses to open her cam or if she takes time to answer messages then that’s not a very good sign. If she sounds nonchalant and keeps making up excuses then maybe you should give it a rest and move on to
the next prospect. It may sound cold but that’s one of the perks of online dating. Sometimes you don’t have to meet a person face to face to know it’s not going to work out. Look for signs that say she is just shy and try to figure out ways to make her open up before you talk about more personal things. Talking about her interests is a good start. It shows her you are interested, maybe not in those things but in her. You can also give input on the subject or, more effectively, compliment it and when you feel sheis opening up (being more talkative, laughing more, taking charge of the conversation and start asking
questions) then you can go ask more personal questions until later on you can ask for her number or ask her to meet.

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Help Writing an Online Dating Profile

Posted on November 25, 2010 by admin

How to Write a Great Introductory Message for Online Dating Sites

Even in real life, you need an ice-breaker to ease the tension as you introduce yourself to your date. You’ll want to make that great first impression that lasts, and you’ll want to do it the right way.

Let’s assume you’ve already got your profile and photo up. If it’s been up and running for weeks and you’re not getting any hits, perhaps you should think of a snappier introductory message to hook people into looking at your profile. Here are a few helpful hints:

Be specific about what you’re looking for.

This is an essential first step to be able to introduce yourself properly in an online dating site. Are you looking for friendship, dating, casual sex, marriage, etc? You can’t be vague about it and say you’re “just looking around”. But you should also avoid being crass. Singles are bound to respond to you more when you say something like “I’m here to have fun with no strings attached” rather than “Anyone up for a one-night stand?” when you’re not really looking for anything long-term.

If you’ve already done this and you still don’t get enough views or responses, chances are you’re on the wrong sort of dating site. Try to look for specialty dating sites that cater to your particular lifestyle, age-group, or interests.


Don’t over-share when you introduce yourself.

There’s such a thing as TMI (too much info) when it comes to an online dating introduction. While it’s encouraged that you be sincere, avoid being frank to a fault. Nobody’s going to appreciate the fact that you haven’t had sex in a long time, or other such unsavoury details of your personal life.

There are ways to make your story palatable. Keep the situation current, avoid lying and fabricating, and find alternatives to describe yourself. Some examples: If you’re a girl with three kids from three different fathers, say “I have 3 wonderful children” instead of expounding on their different gene pools. If you’re a guy who has no job, say “I’m currently in the middle of shifting careers.” That way, you’re not telling lies and you’re giving people a chance to get to know you over time.

Post a photo that already tells a story.

Cropping photos to just frame your face and shoulders is pretty easy. You want members to focus on you and you alone. But try uploading a picture that paints more words than a head shot, such as one with a pet, or one of you doing your favorite hobby or sport. Place a caption that tells a story, such as “This was taken when Colby was a frisky 6-month old and I took him to a family picnic and he ran away with the leg of lamb”, or “This is the scale model of a Spanish galleon I constructed for a full month.” You’re bound to have someone make a comment on your picture because you already provided the back story. Pictures make for great icebreakers.

Make your introduction stand out from the rest.

You may be answering a template questionnaire in a dating site, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get creative. Try to make your profile unique so it stands out from a sea of other profiles. That’s not to say you go whole hog on the outrageous photos and descriptions—eccentricity is still an acquired taste for most people. Just be witty, confident, and don’t pile on the clichés when you describe yourself. Try writing your characteristics in a rhyming scheme, or use the tone of popular advertising to introduce yourself.

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